Taking More Time with Yourself

The Taoist Way of doing sex is taking it slow and spending more time.

No quickies or fast jack offs.

No poppers too, for that matter.

Taoist is natural and fun to enjoy.

Imagine stroking your cock slowly and enjoying it.

Try to do the goon, by focusing on the cock not porn.

My clients enjoy a nice slow sensuous massage "down there"

We have to teach ourselves to slow down to enjoy.

Re train our brains to go slow with our cocks 

This client gave me permission to use his pictures.

Do not get me wrong, a fast jack or looking at some porn is fine, 

but for a change, lets take time for ourselves.

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Ideas for Tantric Fun

Next time you are at the baths, do some self pleasuring.
In Public in the showers, sauna, tv room if they have it.
Keep in mind of the bath rules as I know it's  more strict in the US.
In Canada we can walk around naked with erections at the baths.
Try it. If you are shy, then try a little in the sauna, one step at a time.

Trying to take time out for ourselves

Not always easy, but try.

Even if it is for 15 minutes, to get naked.

Do some self pleasuring. 

Please do not cum.

Then go out and meet your friends.

Gets you in the habit.

Fire in the Valley

Ok now, if you have been practicing massaging your body,
especially your cock and balls, I am hoping you are getting something reaction, from down there.
Your brain is finally accepting the change and re-programming the new way of what you are doing.
But there is one problem.
After all the massaging and breathing, you have one hellva a fire down there, at least I hope you do.
This is why men feel compelled to ejaculate the sperm to cool themselves down.
Instead, injaculate!!
Be sure to be lying down when doing this, i.e. the bed.
You will be taking in three deep breaths, slowly.
On the first two deep breaths, just hold it for a few seconds, and let go.
Then on the third deep breath in, hold it, clinch all over!
Just for about 5 seconds and do not clinch so hard, just a simple clinch.
Then let go. Just lie there for a bit, maybe 30 minutes?
See what happens.
I can get multi orgasmic this way.

Update:
Sorry for delay in posting this as it was on schedule.
As some of you know, there is a problem with google again.

Two Weeks Break

I will not be posting for the next two weeks as I am on vacation.
So you men have plenty of time to do your homework.
Get naked and just play a little, breathe more.
Add some oil later, breathe more.
Do not cum today, save it for tomorrow.
But after self pleasuring today, how did it feel?
Have fun!

What Oil?

So now you get the idea, the best thing to do is to take your time and enjoy.
Use nice oil. I use coconut oil as it is slick and better. Does not stain.
Does not dry out so fast. You can use similar oil.
Of course when massaging your cock the first time with new oil,
your brain is saying ... What the Fuck?
You might not get an erection the first time because of this.
Your brain is wondering where is your usual lube, so do not panic!
Just take your time, breathe into your cock and other parts of your body that turns you on.
For now skip your hot hole.
Spend an hour, as most men do not spend lots of time nor like themselves.
We have been trained to think that way too.
So we have to say fuck em, and enjoy our body in private.
Just take your time enjoying no matter what happens.
I can honestly tell you that my first time with another man massaging my cock,
I was not hard or very hard, so it's normal.
My problem was bring my walls down and opening up, in this case, spreading my legs.
Learning to receive the pleasure.
I know back then my brain was wondering what the hell was I doing.
I have trained my brains since and enjoy receiving a massage.
So back to you give yourself a nice erotic massage.
You can always jack off the next night, as I encourage you to keep the cum inside you.
Enjoy!

When starting Sex, Always start with lots of foreplay!

It is more fun to go slow so you can enjoy it more.

Get into the breathing and rub cocks together.

This allows the bottom to relax his fuck hole so he can take it.

If you continue breathing, you both might enjoy it lots more.

Tantric Thursdays

From now on, my weekly updates are on Thursdays, so this encourages you to practice on the weekend.

Mondays are blah days.

After a week of practice and I hope you had a good time with yourself. Now to add another step and this is very important. This exercise is used with mediation and yoga. It is called breathing. We tend to hold our breathe when we are having sex with men or jacking off. With breathing, this will add to the orgasm and make it better. With time we can become multi orgasmic! There is a book out called “The Multi Orgasmic Man.” Buy it! It is worth it. We know women can if men make it last longer for them. We have been taught there is no such thing. I have experienced it and it is amazing. Now when I pleasure myself, I can go without cumming for weeks. My Choice. 

When pleasuring yourself as I mentioned before, you take slow deeper breaths, and relax. You might have to be aware of breathing in deeper almost like forcing yourself to breathe deeper. We all tend to be shallow breathers. So taking in deeper breaths and relax on the exhale is how you do it. Remember you do not force the breath out.

Try it for awhile, so how long it last, take deeper breaths and relax while self pleasuring. 

Again, No hurry or pressure in doing this as make this a fun “homework”

Then it becomes a stroke and massage focus not cum focus again!

After you do this, then you can mediate if you do that. See if there is a difference. 

Do some yoga before you do self pleasuring. 

More on Tantric

Tantra comes from the Taoist way of thinking. So of course the Christian would not create tantra and I really believe they know about it which is why they try to make us feel guilty about jacking. If we all did tantra and talk about it, it enhances our intuition and lets us be more in touch with our spirit. Then we would not need the church and leave. Mind you, Church attendance is at it’s lowest ever, at least in Canada. 

So what do we do to get in touch with our sex and spirit if you are willing? First and foremost we have to retrain our brain. Just like when you quit smoking, do not sit in your favourite chair reaching for your cigarettes. So do not go to your usual spot to self pleasure as that is what we are going to call it to re train our brain. Call it what ever you like, but do not say it’s time to jack off or the brain will get it organized for you. Lets say you go to bed to jack off. Next time sit in your lazy boy, or similar, and massage your cock. Do not jack or hold your cock the usual way. That gets your brain in the usual program as we are trying to reprogram our brains. When we sit in a different spot and massage our cocks, our brain is wondering what is going on. There you have it! We are telling our brains we want something different so pay attention, as this is how I want to do it. So continue to massage your cock, balls, nipples and other sensitive areas of your body. Make this session a Massage focus than cum focus. Note I said to massage other areas of your body? Most men focus on their cocks only. Have you noticed your nipples gets pissed off when not touched. Oh sure some of you do, but most of you just jack. So add to your cock massage, other areas of pleasure. Explore what else turns you on. Find out who you are! Lots of men do not like themselves or their bodies, so this gives us a chance to explore and learn to love ourselves as Jesus ask us to do. (BTW, rumors has it Jesus went to Asia for awhile to learn tantra and came back to hang out with not one but 12 men. Go figure)

After say about 30 minutes you can do some stroking or edging. But do not cum. When you are getting close, stop. With edging we tend to go right back to jacking to bring ourselves to the edge again and go crazy. Instead, massage and touch yourselves all over. Then go back to stroking and edging. Some men will find this takes too long. The first time I would give this at least 30 minutes til you get used to it. Then go for an hour. On other times, just jack off like you normally do. So you can continue doing this without driving yourself crazy. You might think is it possible to stop going crazy? Yes! I can do it and I know of lots of men can do it, so it just take time and re training our brains.

Lets have fun with ourselves. Some men might not be able to do this and will skip this and that’s fine. This blog is not for those men. But for you reading, stay tuned!

Enhanced Masculinity asking ....

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Was asking me what I know about tantra. How do we make sex and spirit one?

Gosh! It is very hard to teach the basics without a demo. Hard to explain in writing what we are supposed to do. But I can say we need to change our way of thinking and re-train our brains when it cums to our cocks. As soon as we put our hand(s) on our cock, our brain kicks in just like it tells the body, when we are hungry, sleepy, need to go to the bathroom. As we work our penis, our brain is busy telling the body to keep it short and simple any orgasmic events that might happen as we tend do to this fast. That is what we have taught the brain since we were in our teen years, so the brain knows you want it quick. At the same time, the brain is rushing the sperm in our balls to get the hell out! And before you know it, it’s over. Nice quick orgasm if we felt it, but over and in some ways disappointed. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. This is what we are doing when we touch ourselves “down there.” We can get tired of the same ol, but we know there is something about touching our cocks. Yet we keep going back for more of the same ol. 

It took me years to finally be able to enjoy touching and self pleasuring without guilt. As we all know society is really bad with this and I feel for the Americans having to listen to all this BS this election year. We are trying to enjoy ourselves naked and erect, but it comes with baggage. Over the years we do get rid of some of it or maybe some of us are lucky to rid most or all of it, but it is still a quick hand job. We know there is something more otherwise why did God let us be born this way making it so much fun down there?